In life we must strictly adhere to the Word of God in all we do so that it may be well with us. Following His Word will remove error from your ways. In the world we live in now, people tend to view divorce as an option in marriage, even amongst Believers in Christ. Some Believers who profess they are not under the law but under grace still think it okay to divorce. Don’t you know that if you divorce your spouse, you are operating under the law? Let’s observe what the bible says.
“He said to them, ‘Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.’” Matthew 19:8-9.
“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” Ezekiel 36:26.
Jesus said it plainly: sure the law permitted men to divorce their wives but in the beginning (and eternally) God’s will for marriage was “…what God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:6). However because of the hardness of man’s heart, Moses had to permit divorce. The sinful heart can’t forgive or love unconditionally so Jesus even had to tell them “…whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Because man’s heart was hard, divorce had to be accepted.
However we know that under the new covenant, under grace, we have been given a new heart; a heart of flesh not of stone; a heart of righteousness, not a hardened heart. This is why Paul counselled the Corinthian church “…a husband is not to divorce his wife” (1 Corinthians 7:11). We are not to view divorce as an option because we under grace not the law. If divorce was permitted under the law because of the hardness of man’s heart, then should we, whose hearts have been un-hardened by the blood of Jesus, partake in the act? Of course not.
But what if my spouse cheats on me? Forgive your spouse “just as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32). What if my spouse gives me trouble? “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men” (Romans 12:18). The Word of God isn’t always easy to do (because we have flesh to contend with) but God has given us the grace to say no to ungodliness; He has given us the ability to obey His Word to the full extent.
Our troubles do not reduce the integrity of God’s Word. We do not have hardened hearts; we are not under the law. Every marriage that is facing a rough ride right now can be restored. Rather than turning to divorce like a person with a hardened heart, trust God, trust the sacrifice of Jesus Christ for the healing and restoration of your marriage. God is Good.